Tuesday, August 7, 2012
Whatch what you say when you are angry.
I wanted to share one of the reasons I try to watch what I say to others when I am angry or irritated. When I was 12, I had a chance to go for ice cream with the neighbors. I didn't ask permission because I was afraid they would tell me no and I didn't think my parents would notice I was gone. They found out when we returned and I got in trouble. I told my father that I wished he was dead, because I was punished. I got my request. He died in the night from a heart attack. You can't always take back what you tell others. You don't want hateful words to be the last words you tell someone. I was so ashamed of what I said. I know that I did not kill him, but I may as well have done so. No one in my family ever talked about what happened, but I felt the "Shame on You" looks from them all. Unless you want to feel the hurt, guilt, and shame I have suffered, solve your issues without hateful words being said. Yes, you can tell that you are not happy with a situation, but you do not need to repeat it or to yell it with profanity. If you look at me and tell me that you are disappointed in something I said or did, it will work better than if you yell at me and use explosive language.